Definition of good: Having the qualities that are desirable or distinguishing in a particular matter
Definition of a good mistress: Along with desirable physical and sexual qualities, she has the distinguished ability to keep a secret
I am so over Tiger Woods’ situation but his extramarital drama makes me wonder how hard it is for a man to find a jump-off who plays by the rules and knows her position on the sideline.
It is an assumption amongst most of my female friends and I that all men cheat. I would assume that by just looking at their own experiences, or those of their peers, that they would be so much better at it.
As an outsider looking in it seems obvious what men should be considering when choosing a mistress. Considering the following three points I feel would reduce the chances of their affair blowing up in their face.
Is she better than your current girl?
What is the point of cheating on a Megan Fox with a chick who works at Starbucks? Or cheating on a lawyer with the waitress at Wings? It makes no sense but men do it all the time. The more accomplished the mistress the less chance there is that she will try to use the man or the affair to better her situation.
Does she have something to lose?
Is she in a relationship too? If so, it would also be in her best interest if things stay on the down low. If not, well don’t be surprised if she tells a friend or two and it finally makes it way out into the open. Also, if she is young (say under 24) chances are she will not know how to conduct herself in a discrete manner and will revert to obsessive texting and/or stalking if things don’t go the way she wants. Or even worse she might become dangerous (reference: Steve McNair).
Why doesn’t she want to be in an exclusive relationship?
Unless she is married chances are she does want to be in an exclusive relationship and at some point she will either break up with her non-available man to pursue it or pressure him to leave his significant other. Women are emotional beings by nature and it’s only a matter of time before a mistress’ emotions get the best of her prompting her to try to make her secret relationship legit. On that note, it is very important that mistresses know their role from the jump so that way they have no expectations for the future because they were mislead by the man.
For the average Joe who doesn’t have a lot to lose they may not need to consider all of the above but it is still always good to chose a girl knows how to keep a secret and has the incentive to.
Yeah, i agree, these three points would definitely help out and will also give yourself a sense of maturity. Also, regarding point #1, there are many reasons as to why the guy would cheat on a "Megan Fox" for a cute waitress but it seems to more of an impulsive decision in which the guy does not consider these three points and just feels like he can. Even for myself as a man I could never understand why guys do that, like, it really doesn't make sense.
The moral of the story is Don't Cheat it's not worth the trouble. Either try to work things out with your partner or leave them, but cheating is more work then it's worth.
Cheating, if done correctly is absolutely worth it. This is to say, worth the rush, the high of being naughty, the life affirmation of doing what you should not and escaping unscaved. Daring to endeavor for endeavor sake, and to follow the hearts wild and passionate ravings with reckless abandon.
However with every high comes the low, and much like the success in the stock market, the key is to get in when nobody is looking and get out when need-to-knowers become privy to the goings on of busy people.
Like all things in life, balance works well with moderation, and so to with the mistress. The stead fast relationship, much like a workout regime, can become stagnate and loose meaning when in juxtaposition to contemporary life. I.e. It is good for you, however the perpetual maintenance causes the meaning to become diluted, as there is no objective reason for it to “get better” its good now. (key 1- why cheat, have a reason!)
Enter the mistress, someone whom will have something to gain and loose by your shared experience. Your extramarital muse should be intelligent, cunning and have a sense of the scope of the actions you both undertake. Her gain should be the experience NOTHING MORE. There should be some risk, tangibility of a result in a faltered step in the dance. With this in place, you can then assume the identity you choose can you loose yourself. Take care however, when creating this star-crossed lovers world, in which to escape. Never become addicted. (Key 2 – not getting caught)
Never forget the “REAL” world, this being the loving relationship you are currently and at once simotaniously violating. It is good and good for you, perspective can help you see that. Take all measures to avoid hurting your significant, learn to lie, convincingly, be organized, stay calm under all circumstances, keep explanations simple and to the point, use pawns can unwittingly vouch for you with out your knowledge or theirs, and above all keep your alternate live completely separate for your real life. (Key 3 – have the skills)
The final stage to your adventure is the end of the ride. Define and arrive at finish then stop. The moment you are completely comfortable, the moment it becomes easy, becomes part of your “REAL” life. You have lost your sense of perspective. Recognize that moment, you must realize you have a serious problem within your relationship. An affair, cheating, or a mistress will not remedy this. You must end your escape, or deservedly face the hell fire upon being discovered. (Key – 4 recognize the goal)
(writers disclaimer use this info at your own risk)
-enjoy! CMD
i should put in the disclaimer that i personally don't advocate cheating but its a sad fact that it happens....
Mr humble makes some good points...there are things that need to be considered and i feel the most important is to have a reason...
Respect to Mr Humble, who has clearly been there.
I love to be a slave for a mistress.as possible please send me pictures like this.
Here's a tip for guys who cheat: Don't call your mistress and ask her to take her name off her voicemail